Thursday, January 24, 2008

not dating just to date

i haven't texted hockey guy for several days now, and he hasn't texted me, either. so far so good. hopefully he gets the message.

i'm not saying it'd be totally awful to go out with him, but i think i'm just at the point where going out with a guy who doesn't exhibit love for christ is a waste of time for me and a waste of money (and time) for him. i mean, hockey dude seemed like a nice guy, but after talking to him for most of the game, and mentioning the church i go to regularly and the one i went to portland to check out, i could tell we weren't on the same page. i've done the missionary dating thing before; i'm not a fan, and i don't want to do it again.

i think i'm in a place where i don't need to date just to date anymore. i know myself really well. while i might not know exactly what i want, i trust that god knows what i need, and i definitely know what i don't want. my time of dating served me pretty well. at this point in my life i think i have better things to do with my time. if it's obvious after one interaction that a guy doesn't have a strong, growing relationship with christ then i don't need to go on a date with him. besides, generally once i know a guy doesn't have a solid faith, any attraction i have for him starts to fade.

1 comment:

Amir Larijani said...

i've done the missionary dating thing before; i'm not a fan, and i don't want to do it again.

Good idea to stay as far away from that as possible. I haven't done that, but almost every case of M.D. that I have witnessed has ended in disaster. It's very low percentage, even when the "missionary" part is successful.

i think i'm in a place where i don't need to date just to date anymore.

Again a very good idea to avoid that. If it won't lead to marriage, then you are wasting your (and his) time.